What prevents women from equally reciprocating in relationships ?

I mean rarely do guys have a girlfriend who will surprise them with gifts , take them out randomly and pay ( or even take turn taken each other out), and more. You know stuff that guys are expected to do. What do y'all think ?What prevents women from equally reciprocating in relationships ?
I've done that. Not as often as he does, but I do like to surprise him with a little card letting him know I'm thinking about him, or go by the store and buy him a little something (food, gift, whatever) to let him know I listen to what he likes.


In fact, I did that yesterday. :)





I don't know why other people don't do that. What prevents women from equally reciprocating in relationships ?
It goes back to the whole ';courting'; tradition. Traditionally men have courted women, not the other way around. That means buying them stuff, surprising them, etc.. Women are who do that kind of stuff are often viewed as lacking confidence.





I think times are changing though. Personally I would love it if my wife would do nice little things to surprise me. But she's kind of old-fashioned about all that stuff. Like I always paid back when we were dating. Not because I wanted to, but because she felt it was my duty to pay for everything.
i am fed up off all these silly questions about this subject. girls do pay for dates all the time and take things in turns god knows who you are going out with. its expected guys arent made of money especially if you are out drinking one buys a round and then another.





my husband only ever paid for one date of a pizza and bottle of wine and later on that night we started doing rounds for drinking cause we went out clubbing after so from the very first night i was paying. i was making the same amount of money so it is expected. all girls i know do this i think maybe it must be different in america. I agree with Princess about Uk and lovetotalk about Europeans I think this is only something that happens in US these days.
It goes back to traditionalism. It's an old mind set, that people are still working on getting past





Feminist who does plenty of surprise things for the hubby, and either picked up my half of the tab or flip flopped paying for dates.


oh...and I've asked out plenty of guys found that being straight forward works so much better then silly games.
many women ask guys out, i don't know why you think that's ';bs';. my boyfriend %26amp; i actually have that very arrangement where whoever wants to go out, will pay. if i feel like going out to eat, i ask him. %26amp; i pay. no problem. i bought us pizza just last nite.


as for the gifts thing..what the heck are we gonna surprise a guy with?? girls are easy..we love flowers %26amp; jewelry and little things like that once in awhile. i've bought my boyfriend gifts at times..like i'll pick up a cd or movie he wants. but other than that i just don't know what to get him! but i try...


i think the only girls that are like what you describe are the high-maintenance types..that think the world should revolve around them..too busy thinking about themselves %26amp; so on. find a better quality of woman and you will find that we do the things that you are referring to (i swear we do!).


in conclusion, ditch the Mean Girls. haha.



Well! i cant speak for women but for myself, I reciprocate a lot in my former relationship and actually it was the other way around. Guys say things that want to be done in a relationship so when a woman begins to do it maybe even excessively then a guy wants to say don't do that anymore because I've had enough. What prevent us from doing things...You!! the man! and we just do not want to get played!
It's all perception.





How often does a guy bake a batch of cookies and give it to his girlfriend? Or do a load of her laundry?





Each gender contributes something different to the relationship. It's not all about how much money you spend.
i think men and woman should take turns. aslo who ever ask to go out should pay so if a woman wants to go out somewhere she should pay and if a man wants to go somewhere he should pay. and surprise each other with a gift even when its not a special occasion.
HA! What prevents ANYONE from reciprocating in life! There are a handful of women in my life who do that for their men - my family.. my mother, my aunties, my sister, etc.. They are good to their men. A good European may still be like that!
i don't know who your girlfriends are but i surprise my guy with gifts, take him out and pay all the time. cook and clean for him, write letters for him, run errands for him etc.
I thin kin the Uk it's different, we act equal and do equally romantic gestures.
Vanity.
I'm obviously of a rare breed then! I love buying my boyfriend suprise gifts and things. He never does it for me.
I definitely would appreciate a few surprises here and there..
I always went dutch. Had a good time and no obligations.
Wow. Sounds like you pick losers to date.
if u have such a girl friend, just dump her. kick her out.
guys get to have sex, that IS equally reciprocating. I didnt even experience my 1st orgasm until I was 17 , women ARE less sexual than men,and if we have sex, its a BIG compliment to a man.





Plus,dont just base it on films, which I admit do show the guy paying. Women DO pay for meals etc. When I go, I pay my half of the bill. And any further than 3 months down the line, and the guy stops paying anyway. All those old married couples u see, they are splitting the bill. You cant presume to know whats going on in everyones life based on a few films. As I said, I pay my half. It makes me feel uncomfortable if a guy pays, cause I think ';what does he want in return???';


Guys who DO pay, usually seem to expect something, as if we are prostitutes and can be bought....and so, no, things are not in our advantage when a guy pays. They think they are buying US. That is why I do not let them do it.