Is it possible that long distance relationships can work?

I am a heterosexual male and I personally do not believe in long distance relationships. I would rather date someone within my own area code. Reason being that my former girlfriend moved to Florida, and I live in New York. We thought we could make our relationship work but in the end we had to break if off because we lived so far apart.Is it possible that long distance relationships can work?
It's hard enough to make local relationships work, but having miles, States, and sometimes even an ocean between you makes it even more difficult. However, successful long distance relationships can and do exist. Here's how to give yours every chance to survive and thrive.


Ask the important questions at the onset, to make sure you are both clear on the parameters of the relationship. Setting parameters such as naming your relationship (dating, seeing each other, boyfriend/girlfriend, engaged)as well defining exclusive(limited to one person,) non exclusive. These can be difficult and awkward questions to ask, but will save you great heartache and misunderstanding down the line. Example: ';Are you open to the possibility of relocating if the relationship should it become more serious?'; or ';What are you looking to get out of the relationship?';. Stating your end goal or ideas will allow each person to maintain what they need.


Do things together. Defy the distance. As a long distance couple, it's important to do other things together besides the usual phone call. In a long distance relationship, interaction over the phone can become dull in the long run. Incorporating other forms of interaction are important. Just think... people in short-distance relationships do not spend the majority of their time talking, but rather doing things with each other. Try to replicate this by finding things to do together such as watching a TV show or movie simultaneously.


Communicate in some way every day, more than once if possible. Since you won't be seeing each other, it's important to establish and maintain an emotional connection. These don't always have to be long, in-depth conversations. Tell each other about your little triumphs and tragedies. Ask for advice. Use an instant messenger program or VoIP for real-time chat, or web cams for that visual connection. E-mail is great so make sure you use it, especially if long-distance phone calls put a strain on your budget. Remember that e-mail and even instant messengers can increase the possibility of misunderstandings. Write love letters. Send small gifts or flowers for no reason. In this case, quantity is as important as quality. You may discover an advantage over others whose partner is close at hand - you don't take communication for granted!


Take advantage of the benefits a long distance relationship offers: more time with friends and/or family, no arguments over toothpaste caps, the pleasure of seeing your sweetheart again after a long absence, time to mull your options (rather than snapping at your partner impulsively) before you respond to that email s/he wrote that seemed so rude the first time you read it, etc. Most important, being far apart gives you a chance to maintain your individuality - something that can get lost in the shuffle when couples spend all their free time together.


Pursue common interests, even if it means pursuing them apart. If there's a movie you're both interested in seeing, watch it individually and then call each other afterward and talk about it. Read a certain book at the same time. Stargaze while you're on the phone. Set your watches to go off at the same time every day, and synchronize your alarm with that of your partner. Make it a point to think of each other when your watch goes off, and revel in the fact that he or she is thinking about you, too. Find creative ways to bond.


Avoid the temptation to be controlling. People have free will and no one can or should control another person. As long as you are both interested in being in the relationship, you will stick with it and distance will not make a difference. As soon as one of you decides the other is not a good match - or someone else is a better match - your relationship ends, whether you live 3000 miles apart, two streets over, or share the same bed with your wedding picture on the wall. You are going to have to trust each other completely if this relationship is going to work.


Talk about your future together. Assuming that ultimately you'd want to live together, discussing how you're going to get to that point will help you prove to each other that the relationship is going somewhere and that your efforts and frustrations are not in vain.


Know when to say good-bye. While this is tough in any relationship, this can be especially hard over long distances. When communication becomes one-sided or sparse for too long and for no apparent reason, when arguments (yes, you'll have them) become too frequent, when the whole thing just seems like more trouble than it's worth, it's time to re-evaluate the relationship. You have to remember that for a healthy relationship, no matter how far or close, you must be willing to let go.


Remember: things will get better with time, and even the relationship will become better. Have hope.


Visit often Try to make the time to visit each other as often as possible or as often as your budget permits you to. A relationship cannot thrive if thIs it possible that long distance relationships can work?
It is possible for them to work. However, I don't think any long-distance relationship can be maintained for years on end. If you're going to make a long-distance relationship work, then you either need to visit one another, or eventually move in together within a year or so, if possible.
I am in a long distance relationship. We've been together for almost a year and a half. We met on Myspace and I'm from Georgia, He's from New Jersey. It is very hard, but we love each other and work hard at it every single day. We see each other on webcam and are lucky enough to be able to talk on the phone whenever we want. We have only been in person together for a total of a month over the past year and a half and I definitely hate not getting to hold his hand and kiss him, but he's worth waiting for. They do work if you work hard enough and try and you are right for each other. He will be moving here in September of this year and we're only gonna get to be together in person one more time before then, so we still have a little while longer before we're together all the time...but like I said it's worth it %26lt;3
Well your first problem is that you assume that just because it didn't work with one relationship, it won't work with any. If you're not going to do long distance relationships, don't ';not'; do it based off of one relationship that didn't work. That's like saying since your ex cheated, all girls must cheat.





I've been in a long distance relationship for the last 2 years. Easy? Far from it. Is he worth it? Always has been. It's not for every one or every relationship.
They can work but both people have to MAKE it work. Most long distance relationships don't last because one of the people, or both, want to be with that person everyday and cannot stand the fact that they can't. So in order to be in a long distance relationship, you have to compromise with a lot of stuff and truly care for that person.
I've been in a long distance relationship before and it did not work. It was more stress than it's worth. If it is a temporary arrangement then it may be ok but if you don't have any close future plans to move to the same city then I'd suggest to everyone to not commit to anything exclusive.
long distance relationships mostly don't work if ur young and have limited funds. however as u get older and have lots of money they can work. trust and commitment must be very high. both must be secure in themselves an believe that at some point they will be together. and live happily ever after. good luck
Relationships require a lot of effort from but sides to work and long distance relationships can work but they a re very hard to maintain. You have already been in a long distance relationship so you know what its like.
There is a slim chance of survival for this kind of relationship. I think that due to separation a lot of people develop some coping up mechanism looking for other people's company. Eventually, over time, absence makes the heart forget.
They can work, especially if you know you will be back together again (otherwise, what's the point)


I was with my fiance for 8 months while he was stationed in CA and I was in NC. We got married and everything worked out fine.
I have a good friend in school that is trying to make the long distance thing work. They haven't seen each other for months. It all depends on your relationship, and if you feel that she is worth it (and she the same).
Good idea to have a close relationship closer to home. You need to be nurtured and be able to reach out and touch someone. The human touch and companionship are very important.
Many people think that long distance relatioship may be stupid, I really don't think that way, it all depends on the commitment and the loyalty ya have for one another.
The relationship that you previously had did not work because you did not love each other enough. Long distance relationships can work, it just takes a person who cares more about sex to do it. You probably called it quits because you knew you couldn't dip inside her for awhile. I know that if I really loved someone enough, I would make it work.
Long distance relationships can work but at some stage you need to get together to be together forever. There are many happily married couples that started their relationship over a long distance.


It's not easy.
It'll work if the long distance thing is not for a long period of time. More than a year of being far apart is way way too long for me.
yeh sure but it depends how far apart and how deep your relationship is... if u just started i doubt it but if is a long 1 well yep i guess
It happened to me, it was good for a while; both sacrificed a lot, and at the end it didn鈥檛 work.
Yes, I believe it is possible.
It can work out for if either u or her plan to move in together, if not then forget it cus its just a waste of ur time.
Depends cause distance is just a test on how far love can travel.. if the loves strong then yeah but if it isnt then no
Never


They suck
hell no ..